Friend dating my crush
She wasn’t really into relationships and dating, and had a sort of “exclusive” friend-with-benefits arrangement with some guy from her college, which is out of town.Our mutual friends told me she would not want a relationship, and I figured they would know better than me. (I didn’t tell him that I have feelings for her, because I believed she was still involved with the same guy still and didn’t think it important at the time.) A few weeks after meeting her, he tells me they have gone on a few dates, and she said she would like to be his girlfriend.Friendships, like relationships, are not a one-way street.He has to understand you the same way you understand him, and seeing as you made this post, your honest intentions are clear enough that you don't have to worry about yourself here.I should have read my friend's feelings more carefully, and looking back there were signs when she and I first started talking. I'm really enjoying getting to know her better, and I'm not sure that breaking up will help the situation anyway.
He acted on his feelings about 8 months ago, and she rejected him, which made me very careful in our pre-relationship stage.And due to forces beyond your control, you are now crushing on a girl who is not only unavailable, and who is not only unavailable because she is dating your best friend, but who also would not even necessarily be interested in you if she were available—a question you cannot determine the answer to without violating all the laws of both bro culture and good taste. And when you find one you like, you’ll know that the best way to find out if she likes you—and to avoid missing the boat on a potential romance—is to just ask her.